Why It’s Okay to Still Be Single


As a Christian, my goal is to be able to live my life to the fullest by following Christ’s footsteps as my way of appreciating the gift of salvation from the Lord through His son, Jesus Christ; however, following Christ may not be easy for a lot of people. At this day and age, we millennials would constantly feel pressured to condone by what the modern standards are, thus leading us into making unhealthy decisions. That is why I believe that it is important to develop that personal relationship with Christ so that He can guide us through truly living our life to the fullest.

And by living our lives to the fullest, I believe being single for the moment is the wisest thing for me to do; and let me tell you more about it:

I Am Simply Not Yet Ready

Before going into a commitment with someone, I would want to develop a deeper relationship first with Christ. Through walking with Him and getting to know Him more I know that I can be more mature, responsible, and committed enough on every decision I will make. I know I can be a better version of myself as long as I keep my walk with him. I believe that the Lord is still preparing me to be the best for my future partner so that once I finally meet “him,” he will be very proud to say that I’m his partner and that God blessed our relationship. Yes, he will be a fellow believer. That is a non-negotiable.

I Have Set My Standards on God’s Standards

Through setting my standards based on what God wants, I will never be in a hurry. My future partner will be as physically, mentally, financially, and spiritually ready as I am. It is important that my future partner is grounded in faith and is already a mature Christian. He should be someone who will lead me even closer to God because I’d want our relationship to have Christ in its center.

God is Still Molding Me to be a Wife of Noble Character

I am still in the process of being that noble wife as characterized in Proverbs 31:10-31:

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

We all have our own reasons (and I still have more) why some of us still remain single; however, these things were the major factors. I hope that this post will reach and encourage other young women (and men too!) like me to always live for God’s glory by honoring Him first before men.

Mary Jane Lingat is currently the Social Services for Clients Assistant of LIGHT. She has been a Christian for 8 years and her mission in life is to love God, make disciples, and create an impact in the world.

Posted in Blog, Relationships and tagged , , , .

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *