Everyone can agree that love is the universal language we humans speak. But love is often tested in different ways. Loving people who share our values, ideals, and interests is the easiest thing we can do, but what about the people who rub us the wrong way? How can we expand our love for them?
Here are some ways we can take note of to build better relationships with people around us, guided by the wisdom found in the word of God:
Overlook flaws.
We are all imperfect beings, and holding a grudge over someone’s shortcomings can hinder a good relationship. When we focus on seeing the good in someone, we open the door to understanding and compassion. It is written in Proverbs 17:9 that whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends. It encourages us to ignore each other’s imperfections, emphasizing the importance of nurturing love and intimacy despite flaws. It also comes with the idea of not holding grudges and seeking meaning in our interactions with others.
Love even in the most uncomfortable situations.
The depth of love is tested in adversity. Choosing to respond with love, even in the middle of misunderstanding is compelling evidence of a good character. “Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good.” – Romans 12:21. This verse encourages us to respond to evil and suffering with love and goodness. It emphasizes the transformative power of people who choose love over sadness or anger. This can help turn negative relationships into deeper and more positive ones.
Sometimes, the more you hate, the more you love.
We often come across this kind of paradox, but many people believe that there is truth in them. Experiencing strong negative emotions can intensify the desire to be close to its subject. We can turn this negative energy into more positive ones and create an environment of acceptance and growth.
Love your enemies.
In Luke chapter 6, verses 27 and 28, Jesus commands us to love our enemies, do good to those who hate us, bless those who curse us, and pray for those who persecute us. This biblical approach requires a higher standard of love and goes beyond our personal preferences.
Go the extra mile.
It takes a lot of effort to love people we don’t like. Instead of holding a grudge against someone, it may be best to approach them. Engaging in open communication, and trying to understand and express your concerns can be the transformative experience of breaking down the walls of separation. “And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles.” – Matthew 5:41. This passage encourages us to have the spirit of going above and beyond what is expected of us. It also emphasizes the idea of voluntary effort, and applying this principle to relationships will push us in making the effort to communicate, foster understanding, and promote reconciliation. Taking the initiative to build relationships, even beyond our personal issues, is an embodiment of God’s command for us to love our neighbors.
“If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners do the same.” – Luke 6:32-33 ESV